GENDER SCHOOL AND SOCIETY
Seminar
On
Process of Disciplining
Techniques For
Boys
and Girls
Submitted
By
ANCY P.A
Process of disciplining techniques for boys and
girls
Introduction
Discipline
comes from the Latin word disciplinary, “which means,” “to teach,” discipline
“that actually works is never about punishment. Discipline is simply a way to guide
and manage a child’s behavior.
“Discipline
is based on the quality of a child’s relationship with the cave provider (a
teacher in the classroom, and mom and dad at home). When a child receives
consistent response from a caring adult, trust, deep attachment and a sense of
being wanted develops. This forms the foundation of good behavior and effective
discipline.
A child’s routine and frequent
communication was vital to developing respectful and meaningful relationship
which directly behavior and a child ability to learn.
. Discipline is the process of teaching
your child what type of behavior is acceptable
and what type is not acceptable In other words, discipline teaches a
child to follow rules. Effective discipline uses many different tools, like
positive reinforcement, modeling, and a loving and supportive family. Sometimes
punishments or also and effective tool – but that does not mean that good
discipline is mostly about punishments
1.
Give specific positive Reinforcement
Positive reinforcement is a key, it
can come in many flavors. Smiling sharing a high-five and giving effective
praise. But you should not just spout insincere praise without thought. In the
class room. the effective praise is selective, specific, encouraging and
positive. It avoids comparisons and competition. It competes a child’s progress
with his his/her past performance rather than with other children and its
delivered in a caring, natural tone of voice.
avoid using blanket phrases like
“good job” or good girl / boy and he specific about the action or observed good
behavior.
2.
Model the right Behavior
In addition to offering positive
reinforcement, modeling appropriate behaviour is equally important. Be mindful
of what you say and how you say it – not just when you are taking to your child
but when dealing with others as well.
3.
Provide Direct Guidance and Explain your Reasoning
When you guide your kids, always be direct.
Give reasons and explanations for rules (Keep it smile for young children). And
always make sure your directions and requests state what to do, as opposed to
what not to do.
4.
Prevent Bad Behavior Before it happens and seek out support
To prevent the actions, before they
do. eg:- Don’t tell the baby to stay off the stairs a million times, instant.
you install a safety gate. Another example is reduce your extra work like
lifting children to the sink every time they need to wash their hands. Whereas
placing a stool at the sink will allow them to access the soap, water and
towels themselves.
some
discipline techniques:-
1. Avoid speaking to your child from
across the room or the playground. It is easy for them to not hear or the
playground. It is easy for them to not hear you or ignore you, and that can
result in unnecessary issues.
2. Give children as much notice as
possible when changing activities, leaving the house, or a change in the
schedule.
3. Young children are concentrate,
literal thinkers and concept of time is way too abstract for them to grasp. Try
setting a timer or pointing to where the minute hand on the clock will be at
clear-up time.
5.
Offer choices
When you give your kids choices
instead of commands where they can use a “no”response, you are less likely to
end up in the typical “power struggle” situation. The choice empowers the kids.
6.
Create a yes Environment
Children are born with a
healthy curiosity, and they need the
freedom to safely explore their surroundings to discover what their world is
all about. It is important not to inhibit this natural curiosity by constantly
reprimanding your child form touching things around the house.
As kids get alder their natural
instinct is to express their individuality and push limits. At this stage it
becomes essential that you give them the freedom they seek, but within well-
defined limits.
With younger kids, childproofing ex.
placing all dangerous or breakable items out of reach reduces stress for both
parents and children’s.
Teach emotions:-
It is never too early to start
teaching your kids to express their emotions. Not being able to comprehend
what’s going on is a very common reason for kids.
For younger children, a simple emotions
chart can be great. You can even create your own by taking picture of your
child’s emotion faces.
For older children, teach them words
from this feeling vocabulary list to enrich their emotions vocabulary, so they
can appropriately express themselves.
7.
Use fictional Third-party mediators
With little kids, use a puppet to
model positive behavior. A third party can help cool things down and diffuse
tension.
Establish
your role as parent
Responsibility as a parent is to help
the child to become self-reliant, respectful and self controlled. Relatives, scrods,
churches, therapists, health care professionals and others can help. But the
primary responsibility for discipline rests with parents.
1.
An authoritative Parent
An authoritative parent has clear
toward his or her child. The authoritative parent allows for flexibility and
collaborative problem solving with the child when dealing with behavoiur
challenges. This is the most effective from of parenting.
2.
An authoritarian parent
An
authoritarian parent has clear expectations and consequences, but shows little
affection toward his or her child. The parent may say things like, “ because I
am the mommy, that’s way, “ This is a less effective from or parenting.
3.
A permissive parent
A
permissive parent shows cots of affection toward his or her child but provides
littke discipline. This is a less effective from of parenting.
Role
of a Teacher
Discipline is not about getting kids
to do what you want them to do. That’s what dictators do, and teacher is not a
dictator but an educator. Discipline is providing an environment in which
positive teaching and positive learning can occur simultaneously. Discipline is
not control from the outside
·
Greet
students at the door
Interact
with your students on a personal every day. Greet them by name, give a positive
comment, shake their hand, and welcome them into the classroom. this sets a
positive tone for a lesson or for the day.
·
Get
students focused before you begin any lesson
Be
sure you have their attention before you begin. Don’t try to take over students
·
Use
positive presence
Don’t park
yourself in the front of the classroom. Move around the room continuously and
get in and around your students. Make frequent eye contact, and smile with
students. Monitor students with your physical presence.
·
Model
the behaviour you want students to produce
If you exhibit show respectfulness,
trust enthusiasm, interest and courtesy in your everyday dealings with
students, they will return the favour in kind. Remember the saying “values are
caught, not taught”.
·
Use
low profile intervention
When you see a student
who is misbehaving, be sure your intervention is quiet calm, and inconspicuous.
Use the student’s name in part of your presentation, for example, Selvan, who
has been whispering to his neighbour, hears his name and is drawn back into the lesson with no
disruption of the class.
Conclusion:-
Discipline techniques may depend on
the type of inappropriate behaviour child displays. child’s age, child’s
temperment and parenting style. Discipline is not about getting kids to do what
you want them to do. That’s what dictators do, and teacher is not a dictator
but an educator. Discipline is providing an environment in which positive
teaching and positive learning can occur simultaneously.
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Gender school and society. Chennai:
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